I was stuck in anthropology/evolutionary theory mode on the train to Austin from the Ancestral Health Symposium in LA. I used a large portion of the time to chip away at rereading Sex at Dawn. My intent was to fulfill my longstanding desire to present a significant critique of the ideas presented in the book. When I first read it, I hadn’t yet launched this site, and didn’t take it too seriously. Unfortunately, it’s become a “bestseller” and is not infrequently referred to by readers as a potential challenge to my ideas. My criticisms are many (and still forthcoming), but a review just came out in the journal Evolutionary Psychology [pdf] that I feel good about pointing everyone to in the interim.
Just one of my personal quibbles with the book that may give you a little context for my disdain before dumping some of the salient points from review on you. After the authors spend significant time building a largely ad hominem case against Darwin’s ability to comment on sex, they depart from the true picture of modern views on evolved human sexuality by pushing the boundaries of antiquated scholarship beyond their breaking point. Rather than compare Darwin’s ideas to those of modern evolutionary psychologists or anthropologists, they look to Lewis Henry Morgan. Mr. Morgan was indeed a renowned anthropologist, but his death in 1881 precludes him from access to mountains of anthropology relevant (and from other disciplines that are perhaps even more relevant) to questions of natural and sexual selection. Yet, the authors ballyhoo his 19th century authority in an attempt to use his opinions on evolutionary theory to cast aspersion on its modern iteration. Sorry folks, the fact that he was cited by Darwin, Marx, and Freud does not make him well qualified to weigh in on matters of 21st century evolutionary biology. Unfortunately, this sort of faux-authority as literary device to support the Sex at Dawn narrative is a common tactic employed by the authors. The review in Evolutionary Psychology doesn’t add any favorable comments on the scholarship or conclusions forwarded in the book.
The following are quotes from Ryan M. Ellsworth’s piece in Evolutionary Psychology. [bolding for emphasis mine]
One of the more shocking claims in the book is that sexual jealousy isn’t a natural human emotion. I agree with the review that the literature referenced is subjected to a cursory and selective treatment:
In a cursory and selective treatment of the literature, Ryan and Jethá portray sexuality and the relations between males and females in partible paternity societies as carefree, unencumbered by the jealousy and other difficulties and conflicts that attend more restrictive cultural mores. Promiscuous sex creates and promotes webs of affection and affiliation. Further, the institution of partible paternity means that male parental care is diffused, resources are distributed among a wider social network, and children benefit from the investment of multiple fathers. In sum, “Belief in partible paternity spreads fatherly feelings throughout the group”. What the authors fail to mention is that male sexual jealousy and sexual conflict are not absent from even the most sexually liberal of partible paternity societies.
The next two quotes are perhaps most informative regarding the selective and misleading use of the ethnographic record:
It is interesting indeed that Ryan and Jethá approvingly cite some horticultural societies (all partible paternity cultures in South America; the Trobriand Islanders; Tahitians; Mohave) as affirming evidence of the sexually promiscuous nature of humans, and a purported lack of universal concern over paternity, while at the same time rejecting other horticultural societies as representative of ancestral humans in their discussion of warfare on the grounds that they are not foragers. They are attempting to have their cake and eat it, too.
In fact, of all the societies they offer as supporting evidence of a human nature of promiscuous sexuality, only one can truly be considered a foraging population: the Inuit, and it is unfortunate that Ryan and Jethá give only a brief anecdotal nod to the Inuit practice of spouse exchange, leaving out the fact that “Among the North Alaskan Eskimo, wife exchanges were arranged between the husbands, and the wives were not consulted”.
I agree with their assessment that the notion of private property is an emergent property of agricultural civilization, but disagree that sexual jealousy is entangled with either notions of private property or agriculture:
Despite their proclamation that with the dawn of agriculture and the derivative notion of private property, “for the first time in the history of our species, paternity became a crucial concern”, and their description of an “anthropological record so rich with examples of societies where biological paternity is of little or no importance” , the survey of the ethnographic record given by Ryan and Lethá does not lend itself readily to these suggestions. It fares little better in providing support for a promiscuous human nature.
It appears that men everywhere take a proprietary attitude toward female sexuality and strive to monopolize the reproductive resources of their mates. Cross-culturally, adultery (particularly female infidelity) is the most common cause of divorce. Sexual jealousy is the predominant precipitating factor in lethal and nonlethal violence against women, and competition among men over women or the resources needed to attract them has been the cause of much bloodshed in our species. These facts simply are not compatible with the narrative put forth in Sex at Dawn.
When the facts don’t fit the narrative, sometimes you have to change the facts:
Another piece of evidence given for a history of promiscuity is human male testicular size. As noted by Ryan and Jethá, the volume of human testicles relative to body mass is intermediate between gorillas and chimps, and this has been used to argue both sides of the debate over human promiscuity. Recognizing that human testes size doesn’t implicate the levels of bonobo-like promiscuity they see as characteristic of ancestral humans, they resort to the hypothesis that human testes might have been shrinking since the end of the Pleistocene (more so in some racial and ethnic groups than in others) as a result of the increased monandry accompanying an agricultural mode of subsistence. Fair enough, but this is a very difficult hypothesis to test. Luckily, Ryan and Jethá claim that it has already been confirmed! Referring to a paper… reporting that certain genes involved in sperm and seminal fluid production in the lineages of humans, chimps, and bonobos appear to have undergone quite rapid evolution changes. Ryan and Jethá remark that this study… “confirm a prediction made by Roger Short…[that] ‘Testis size might be expected to respond rapidly to selection pressures”’. But nowhere in the… article do the authors mention anything about genes influencing testes size.
Logical problems aren’t uncommon in the text:
Scattered throughout Sex at Dawn are references to mate preference shifts and other cycle-related behavioral changes associated with human estrus. None of the recent evidence on estrus adaptations, however, suggests a history of promiscuity (defined by Ryan and Jethá as a number of ongoing, nonexclusive sexual relationships). Rather, their manifestations are highly contextualized and specific—estrus is not a generalized increase in sexual interest or desire.
This is why I ultimately can’t recommend the book. While I do find the book interesting, its audience seems to be a general public with no serious knowledge of the underlying anthropology or evolutionary theory. The references provided seem to build a convincing case absent the context of a prior understanding of the referenced material. As such, I think this book has already persuaded many people of ill-conceived ideas, and will likely continue to do so.
Is this book likely to open the eyes of scientists and make them realize that the emperor has, for so long, not been wearing any clothes? Will it initiate a major revision of perspective and research on the evolution of human sexuality among scientists? The answer to both is “no.” But, as mentioned at the beginning of this review, books like Sex at Dawn inform the wider public of the goings-on in academia. In this case, a distorted portrayal of current theory and evidence on evolved human sexuality is presented, and for this reason it deserves more attention from those on the inside.
Perhaps Dr. Ryan’s comment on the review via twitter is the most appropriate summation: “An academic review of S@D (critical, but not terribly unfair).” - Chris Ryan, PhD.
If you have any comments on the monogamy vs. polygamy question, whether or not sexual jealousy is a real emotion, or other related topics, please share below.


Jessica
1 year ago
Sexually jealousy is well-known in the animal kingdom, so I really have a hard time believing that it would be a new thing for humans.
Andrew
1 year ago
Agreed. It does require a sort of human exceptionalism to maintain that humans didn't evolve sexual jealousy. When dealing with social scientists, you'll often find that a different set of standards applied to humans than other animals (without valid justification).
wozza
1 year ago
There's a lot more to the argument than sexual jealousy.
Andrew
1 year ago
At 400+ pages, I should certainly hope so.
That said, it's also a simple fact that significantly undermining sexual jealousy (particularly in males) is a cornerstone required to launch a successful attack on parental investment theory. If jealousy is an innate and evolved emotion, then it takes a lot of gymnastics to successfully argue the position Sex at Dawn stakes out. With that as a backdrop, it makes perfect sense that the bulk of the discussion here is about jealousy (just as it is in the book). Though… there are references above quoted from the review that aren't about jealousy, so I'm having a hard time finding the point in this one sentence.
Geoff
1 year ago
I do not think that sexual jealousy is a unique emotion. I think that it is the same emotion as neediness or fear of loss. Our modern understanding of female purity and chastity is largely a social construct. It certainly makes sense from an evolutionary perspective that it would hardwired, after all, the likelihood of raising the child of someone else is pretty high, but I don't really think it holds water empirically. One thing that I found particularly shocking and as a negative example essentially disproving the hypothesis, is the idea that Wodaabe tribesmen will request that their wives mate with male beauty pageant winners so that their children end up better looking than them.
This is not to deny the fact that sexual jealousy exists in all cultures to some degree. There will always be a social hierarchy, and those who do not sit atop this hierarchy will always be jealous of those who do, including in the realm of sex. But this jealousy, like all jealousy, stems from insecurity, and as with every other type of jealousy, will not exist in its absence. Sexual security is an achievable state, and as such so is a lack of jealousy. I do not see why parental investment theory would require there to be some unique "sexual jealousy" that is independent of other types of jealousy.
chris
1 year ago
Support for the notion that jealousy is a sexually-dimorphic adaptation. (There are also many more studies supporting this idea, but I can't be bothered finding and listing them all for you.)
Masculinised brain and romantic jealousy: Examining the association between digit ratio (2D:4D) and between- and within-sex differences. http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/…
Abstract:
We examined the relationship between second-to-fourth digit ratio (2D:4D), a correlate of prenatal testosterone exposure, and distress at sexual versus emotional infidelity in hypothetical scenarios of relationship threat. As predicted, a significant negative association was found between 2D:4D and greater distress at sexual infidelity for the whole sample (N = 179, females = 101). While this novel finding supports the view of romantic jealousy as a sexually-dimorphic adaptation, we explore reasons for the relatively weak association and discuss how underlying differences in brain structure could have influenced sex-specific behavioural capacities in romantic jealousy. We suggest a useful direction for future research will be to develop novel methods that facilitate the investigation of implicit emotional, rather than explicit cognitive, processes in response to pair-bond threat.
Support for the idea that jealousy doesn't relate to insecurity (at least sexual insecurity).
Evolution, Sex, and Jealousy: Investigation With a Sample From Sweden http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/…
Abstract:
When asked to choose which would be most upsetting, a mate’s sexual or emotional infidelity, past research has demonstrated that men are more likely than women to choose sexual infidelity, whereas women are more likely than men to choose emotional infidelity. Explanation of this sex difference has been controversial. In the current study we attempted to replicate previous research by examining a sample of college students in Sweden. In doing so, we also investigated the “double-shot” explanation. In the current study, the majority of men chose the sexual infidelity scenario as most upsetting, whereas the majority of women chose the emotional infidelity scenario as most upsetting. Contrary to the double-shot explanation, choice of scenario was unrelated to attitudes regarding whether the other sex was capable of satisfying sexual relations outside of a love relationship.
hereinmiami
1 year ago
I find that second study deeply unpersuasive, since it tells us only what men and women in one historical context think and feel; unsurprisingly, they conform to the norms of their culture's expectations for men and women. Men are taught to care about how others perceive their masculinity, their status is bound up with it, and being a cuckold makes you look like a failure as a man; meanwhile for women, your man cheating on you is humiliating, but you can loudly decry him in public and get a sympathetic audience, and women are taught to cultivate their emotional capacities, to idealize romantic love, and might thus find emotional infidelity a significant blow. (not that there aren't many men out there who DO in fact care about emotional fidelity) My point is that to draw conclusions about human nature as a whole and our "hard-wiring" from this kind of data seems questionable to me. The first one seems more persuasive, but I'm confused by the way the authors seem to be saying that its a "relatively weak association;" are they saying that the correlation between (presumably but not certainly) high testosterone levels in the womb and higher rates of sexual jealousy are actually weak?
Andrew
1 year ago
There is a lot of work on this particular question, starting with Rober Trivers' parental investment theory (1972). Without the context of the theory, one study from a population in Sweden isn't going to be very persuasive. Without the context of the theory and the rest of the empirical work on the question, it's still not likely to be very persuasive.
Just for fun, here are a few more:
-Jealousy and beliefs about infidelity: Tests of competing hypotheses in the United States, Korea, and Japan. Personal Relationships
-Sex differences in Jealousy in Evolutionary and Cultural Perspective: Tests from the Netherlands, Germany, and the United States
-The evolution of jealousy
-Romantic jealousy in early adulthood and in later life
-"Gender differences in rival characteristics that evoke jealousy in response to emotional versus sexual infidelity"
-Sex differences in human jealousy: A coordinated study of forced-choice, continuous rating-scale, and physiological responses on the same subjects
-Sex differences in jealousy: The recall of cues to sexual and emotional infidelity in personally more and less threatening context conditions
But… since you're not actually questioning the issue of sexual jealousy, but whether or not behavioral traits can evolve in animals and humans, showing you individual studies is probably not going to help. To get the answer to that, you need to back way up and study evolutionary theory itself (Darwin's 1871 work, The Descent of Man is better than his 1859 On the Origin of Species for this purpose), or the foundations of the fields that deals with evolved behavior. There are several, but behavioral ecology, ethology, and evolutionary psychology are three examples.
Since this is a bigger fish to fry, I can't think of anything shorter than book length, but try:
-The Mating Mind
-The Adapted Mind
Or, if you want to watch a couple dozen hours of video that's sorta related, Robert Sapolsky's Stanford course, Human Behavioral Biology is great.
muhr
1 year ago
I’ve only read part of “Sex at Dawn” and haven’t reached this point, “reporting that certain genes involved in sperm and seminal fluid production in the lineages of humans, chimps, and bonobos appear to have undergone quite rapid evolution changes.” However, I have read a paper that discusses that topic.
Rate of molecular evolution of the seminal protein gene SEMG2 correlates with levels of female promiscuity
http://www.ucc.ie/academic/biochemistry/plantgeneticslab/bioinformatics/bioinformatics2008/papers/journal%202.pdf
To reduce the paper to one sentence, the human version of the gene had undergone about as much change as the gorilla version and the gibbon version, not the chimp or bonobo version.
Peggy
1 year ago
I haven't read Sex at Dawn because I thought The Prehistory of Sex looked way more interesting. I can't really comment on what the authors said but I do have some personal experience with sexual jealousy that I think is intersting.
Before I went Paleo, I had a lot of health problems. I also had pretty bad sexual jealousy. As my physical problems diminished so did my mental problems and so did my jealousy. Once I got to a place where I was finally really healthy, mentally and physically, the jealousy was gone. It just vanished. Since then I now consider jealousy a mental problem.
I am just one case and that is no basis for extrapolation but I think the degree of change is notable anyway.
My own lack of jealousy could be attributable to many factors and these conditions may not be just right for everyone at every time. Keeping jealousy at bay may be easier when I'm with someone who is head over heals for me. It's not comfortable to feel that I am competing so much (I would probably just abandon the relationship in this case and find something else). If I feel like I am not involved in my partners promiscuity, images may be bothersome. If I am either involved or know what's going on and the person that it's going on with, I'm cool. If not, again, I would probably just leave.
After having "recovered" from being overly emotional, I tend to think that negative emotions in general are not real emotions, at least not lasting, tormenting, and heavy ones. It's probably natural to have fleeting thoughts of jealousy, anger, fear, and sadness, but anything more than brief moments of it doesn't seem natural to me.
Andrew, I would love to see an analysis of open relationships (in traditional cultures and even in members of the Paleo community) and partner sharing. I think the subject is cool.
Todd
1 year ago
It’s been awhile since I read “Sex at Dawn,” but my interpretation of the hypothesis was closer to what I think Geoff above is saying:
Humans have “scarcity” and “abundance” behaviors for things that are perceived as valuable, most obviously food and sex. Jealousy is part of the “scarcity” cluster of behaviors, which is exacerbated by the structure of modern society.
So, the point is not that sexual jealousy is a result of agriculture, but, rather, that it is possible to live in a frame of sexual abundance that precludes negative sexual behavior.
ZJB
1 year ago
And the point of the review is that the evidence doesn't support that hypothesis–that is, if you look at the actual evidence rather than the book's selective presentation of the evidence.
Andrew
1 year ago
Todd, I don't know how to ask this without sounding glib, but it's a sincere question. Are those concepts from psychology, or the pickup community? I've heard them discussed at length among PUAs, but never really run across the terms in evolutionary psycholgy.
Jordan Lee
1 year ago
Abundance is a concept of Sex at Dawn and seduction. It’s a absolutely true and has profound effects to jealously.
George Sawyer
8 months ago
Glad to see that others have found the Ellsworth review, or who have applied critical thinking to the issue. I know many people in Northern California who have uncritically taken Sex at Dawn as gospel.
One of the people who I consider to be one of my important teachers told me he thought there were two kinds of men – those who can be insanely jealous and those who were liars. Myself? I get jealous.
ryadper1
8 months ago
If there is possibility for a man to have a sex with different women at a snap of a finger, jealousy keeps its head down, even if the regular partner is having sex with other men. That’s my experience. Jealousy steps in only when possibilities for sex with other than regular partner are limited. Sex at dawn is right.
Jesse E Martin
4 months ago
Jealous in %100 of situations? I find context is very important in determining if I am jealous from events in a relationship. I am a bit eccentric though.
As for the book, I am always cautious of what I read. Twisting of facts to create pseudo-science happens too often. I do believe that human society is rapidly diversifying right now and while there may be arguments over our past things are changing.
A review of Sex at Dawn: anthropology, cultural diversity, and over-simplification | Young Cosmopolitanist
2 months ago
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com.br
1 week ago
What a stuff of un-ambiguity and preserveness of valuable know-how on
the topic of unpredicted feelings.